Timeless Movement
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Timeless Movement
Quiet Power
What if being less visible made you more effective? We explore how choosing to observe first can turn awkward small talk into meaningful connection, both at work and at home. By reading body language, timing, and tone before you jump in, you learn what people actually mean—not just what they say—so your first words land cleanly and your presence feels natural instead of forced.
I share how growing up quiet taught me to read the room and why that habit became a real advantage in business. We break down a simple sequence you can use anywhere: watch for two to five minutes, identify a few clear cues, then enter with a short, relevant contribution that matches the pace and mood. We also tackle the trust question head-on. Staying silent forever is off-putting; the key is balance. Observe to gather context, then give a piece of yourself to build reciprocity. That rhythm turns “networking” into genuine rapport and helps you avoid oversharing that makes conversations feel one-sided.
You’ll hear how to practice invisibility without being weird: people-watch without staring, scan group dynamics at family dinners, and use quick tells—eye contact, posture shifts, vocal energy—to know when to speak and when to wait. We connect these skills to everyday wins: smoother collaboration, fewer misreads, better timing, and relationships that feel earned rather than engineered. If you’re tired of pushing for visibility 24/7, try this quieter path to presence and influence. Subscribe, share with a friend who thrives on listening, and leave a review with your favorite body-language cue to watch for next week.
Welcome back to the Timeless Movement Podcast. I'm your host, Alexander Laszlo. And today is just me again. We'll be talking about invisibility. I talked about it a little bit in last week's episode, but I think it needs more explanation in its own episode. And if you can, because I think if you do it right, it can be almost of a superpower and can be really helpful at times. And I was talking about this with Johnny DeBrito over at Sotheby's great agent, great guy. Go check him out. But we were talking and he was like, what do you do well? What do you what's like a superpower that you have? Just, you know, try and help me figure out what I'm good at and what I can help other people with. And at first I didn't say invisibility, but as we kept talking, it came to a point where we were like just talking about how to meet new people and connect with people just wherever we go. And I was talking about like, yeah, you know, sometimes I can just sit back, watch the conversation happen, and then kind of infiltrate it almost and have a more of a natural approach, a natural meeting. And he was like, Well, that's a superpower right there, if you can do it correctly. And I was like, you know what, you're right. That is, that could be a true help to my to connecting with people and to my business. So I wanted to just talk about this on here. And hopefully, my goal for this episode is under 30 minutes. My target is 15 minutes, though. So, you know, short to the point. I hope all you guys are listening to this. This is not going to be a video one. This will only be listen only. So, yeah, please listen, please learn, and let's get into it. So I would say probably around 10th grade. You know, I was more of a quieter guy. I wasn't super vocal, super out there. And so, you know, I was a little bit more quiet, a little bit more to myself. And over the years, it's helped me because I'll look, I'll just look and I'll see and I'll observe. And, you know, I'll see people's habits, I'll see how they interact with each other, I'll see what they're talking about, I'll hear it, I'll just all those things, like what their head, what they're not just what they're saying, but what their eyes are saying, what their body language is saying, all of that. So I want to, you know, kind of impart this onto you guys almost to how you can do it yourself and help yourself maybe connect with more people, or maybe you're like, well, I don't know how I can just sit back and be quieter, whatever it may be. I hope this can help you guys. I'm not exactly sure how to explain it, but I'll try my best. So I would say start by just kind of not over-sharing or over-talking, but like kind of just sit back in conversations a little bit and just start gradually sitting back a little bit and kind of get in that way. I mean, if you're already quieter and you don't talk much, this will be easier for you if you're but if you're more of an extrovert and you're just talking and talking and you love having conversations, this might be a little bit harder for you. But either way, I think it's very helpful for either introverts or extroverts, whatever you may be. But you kind of sit back and let the conversation happen and you just watch the interaction. And I do this all the time, you know, at work, just in my daily life, all of it. And sometimes I'll see, you know, people come up to other people and be like, hey, how are you doing? And the other person is joyful and responds uh excitedly and happily. And then sometimes someone go up joyfully, and the other person will be like, Yeah, I'm good. And you can sometimes you can tell if they're having just a bad day or if they just don't like the person, which I find so interesting is you can just see, you know, the interactions happening. But since you're not talking, you can really focus on what their body language is saying, what their eyes are saying, what they're not saying, but thinking internally. And I find it so interesting and so helpful in this business world, it's really helped me a ton because I can just look at what people are doing, what they're saying, what they're not saying, and kind of infiltrate it almost and nudge myself in naturally and just you know, kind of become build the right, build the relationship there. And now you might be thinking, well, isn't that a little dishonest? You're building your relationship on lies or whatever. I I wouldn't say so. You could think of it that way if you really want to, but I I wouldn't say it is like that. I would say it's more of like I'm doing research before meeting you. Because that's basically what it is. You're just learning and observing from what they're doing so you can better interact with them and better connect with them. And then also, I talked about a little bit about a little bit about it last week, where I saw an Instagram video about an ex-CIA agent who was saying why he doesn't trust quiet people, and it's for this exact reason. He doesn't trust them because when you're quiet and you observe, you're gaining information and you're keeping your information. If you're always talking, you're giving away information and not really gaining any information. And if you kind of do a mix of both, you're doing a mix of both. You're giving some information, you're retaining some information. But that's not really what I'm saying. And that like you don't be untrustworthy. I the way I kind of do it is like first initial, I'm observing for however long, like two, five minutes maybe, and taking that information to help me connect with them so that I'm gaining the information, and then I'm giving up some information, you know, just sharing about my life, whatever it may be, so that it I gain the trust, so that I'm not just sitting back watching everything, learning everything, and not giving anything. As every everyone says in the business world, you can't get anything with value without giving anything of value. And that that can be done in a multiple multitude of ways. You know, you know, I'm gonna give you a service, I'm gonna give you a partnership, I'm gonna give you time, whatever it may be. That's not the focus of this episode, though. But what I'm saying is like almost kind of take yourself out of the equation at first and then bring yourself back in. I find that very helpful because you can then learn and see and you know, just kind of learn their habits, learn what they like, what they don't like, and just kind of have a better and more natural interaction and connection with them and build a better relationship, I think. Because if you're always talking, you're not really gaining information and it just kind of sounds like it's all about you. You're just like me, this, me, this, me, this, me, this, me, this. Even if you're not talking about yourself, that kind of is what it comes across as. So I think it's very important to do a mix of both. And then, yeah, I think it's just important to do a mix of both. Just kind of observe and also share. So you're getting as much information as you're giving, instead of giving all the information or getting all the information and being either annoying or untrustworthy. Yeah, I would challenge you guys to try this. Just kind of just observe in conversations, you know, it might be at the family dinner table, just watching your parents or family, whoever your extended family might be that you're having dinner with, just look and observe and see how everyone's interacting and just kind of watch their facial expressions and not really listen on what they're saying, but listen to what they're not saying. And then just kind of bring it into the real world. You can be wherever you want to. You can also just kind of people watch if you want to at first, so you can bring it into your social life of just going to the grocery store while you're in line or grocery shopping or whatever. Just looking at people and seeing how they're interacting and seeing how they're what they're saying, what they're not saying. But and don't be creepy about it. Like don't just stare at them and stare them down like I'm gonna hunt you or something. Just kind of keep it natural and just naturally observe and see what is happening and seeing that interactions. And it's I would say it's gonna be a little difficult at first, unless you're used to being quiet and seeing what's happening around you, then it's probably gonna be easier for you. But if you're not, then it's gonna be a little bit difficult. So don't be hard on yourself or anything. Just know that it takes time, takes some practice. But I think it is so important because everyone's talking about visibility. Don't underestimate visibility. Don't, you know, listen to people, hear people, whatever, whatever. I think invisibility has just really been pushed under the rug where it can really help people. It can really help you learn interactions, so learn how to interact with people, see, you know, if some people are feeling bad that day, or just kind of read between the lines. And not only can it help you in the business world, but it can also help you in the personal world. So that's all I really have to say about that is just kind of get out there and make invisibility or superpower because that's one of the real-world superpowers that we can really have, is just kind of take a step back and take yourself out of the equation and watch. Yeah. I think that's all I really had to say. I hope you guys really learned something from this. This is a short one, so I hope you guys really paid attention and it's just not on in the car or just on. I hope you guys really paid attention to this one. I find it incredibly helpful. I hope you guys do too. My challenge you guys to try it. Just try it out and see if you like it. If you don't, you don't have to do it. But if you do, then I think it's incredibly helpful, incredibly useful. So, yeah. I'll see you guys next week. And thank you for tuning in. And I hope you really took something out of this. And I'll see you guys next week.